Don’t fight it

Have you ever heard your partner say, “I just wish I could figure this out!” Or perhaps, “Why am I so stressed all the time?!” Maybe it’s more like, “I shouldn’t be this irritated.” It’s all different versions of...

The 7 Hardest Words

I once heard that there are 7 words in English that are hardest to say — but have the greatest payoff. Those words are: I’m sorry. Forgive me. I love you. Why is it so hard to say those words? When you’ve been in an argument and maybe did or said things...

Talking To “The Child”

Sometimes, the benefit of counseling is that a third party can see what you and your partner simply can’t. Sometimes, when I’m in a session, and I look at two hurting and angry adults — I try to see them as little children. They’re hurting,...